This is 30!
I have completed 30 years in this life and let me tell you, it has been a ride.
I really have quite the story, but that's for you to read in my book one day.
Here are some important life lessons I've picked up along the way..
Be authentically you!
I struggled with this for a while! It's so easy to get caught up in trying to be the version of you that your family, friends (not good ones obviously), and society want you to be. No one can be a better you than YOU! If you want to do something (and it doesn't hurt people) DO IT. Cut your hair, change your wardrobe, try that thing you've always wanted to do, and continue to do the things you love.
Be adaptable, that's the only way you'll evolve
I strongly believe no one is meant to stay the same, that's why children become adults and years give us wisdom. Be open to other ways of living and accepting of others. Don't be judgmental either - really, just stay in your lane - if something isn't your cup of tea, don't do it AND don't insult someone who does. Live your life and always be open to plans changing - it's inevitable. Who would have thought we'd all be in a pandemic right now? Maybe Baba Vanga...
Do what you can today
Life is so short, I've been fortunate that for 29 years, I never had anyone close to me die. Sadly I lost a dear friend this year, I hadn't seen her in 9 years and we just kept putting it off... it really hit me a lot harder than I expected and grief really comes in waves... in those little memories that seemed little at the time...but they become so so big. She supported me throughout the whole time I had her in my life and I loved her for it. She celebrated all my accomplishments and encouraged me to be the amazing woman I am... she was amazing too and had such a big heart!
She never, ever forgot my birthday... Danesha Aikens <3
There are other life lessons, but I'll leave you with this quote from my favorite poem Desiderata
"...enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time...Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth...And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
Full text here: Desiderata