Lately, as I transition to this new stage in my life - new job, new age, moving back home- I have been getting distracted by nostalgia and FOMO; to be clear, I think it may be helpful to define the two here:
Nostalgia is a wistful or excessively sentimental yearning for a return to or of some past period;
FOMO = Fear Of Missing Out.
I am going to be so honest, and transparent here... I am so excited about my life and the journey I am on! I sometimes look at old friends that stayed in touch with each other, and not me. Friend groups I was once apart of, moving forward without skipping a beat. Did I do something wrong? Why is it that I feel as if I've been left, not behind, aside rather?
That's the nostalgia making room, I cherish the memories and must remind myself that sometimes people just grow apart - no love loss. Some friends are forever, some friends are seasonal and most true friends will always be there when you need them.
Now, here's the FOMO bit coming at ya!
I'm going to be 29 in a few days, starting my third decade of life and I am single with no kids or assets. I would 1000% say I have a successful career and I am truly happy with the way my life is panning out.
Allow me to be human and vulnerable for a minute!
I can sincerely say, at 18 I never saw my life panning out this way and while I am very happy, I am also very surprised. Everyone else is getting married and having kids, why aren't I?
Easy silly rabbit, that's not YOU.
I always dust off the FOMO and nostalgia then remind myself that my story is my own, unique, and exciting. In no way do I want you guys to read this and think, "is she not happy?"
I am very happy with my life and I genuinely would not have been able to write a better story. I love every twist, turn, failure/rejection, and success.
Every day I wake up excited because each day holds a surprise, a new episode.
I hope this inspires someone and encourages people to live your life and not try to recreate the life of others! What is for you will always be for you. Check out my post about finding your ikigai (reason for being)